A great advice I heard about parenting is: Watch the words you use with your kids, as it will later become their inner voice.
I spent over 10 years fighting against the judgement I received when I was growing up. And although in the process of doing it, I acquired and honed more knowledge and skills, I also acquired fears and self-doubt. A lot of the habits I have now, are consequence of what my inherited inner voice tells me.
During the last decade, I have seen how amazing people – people I thought were incredibly gifted – felt unsure, flawed or irrelevant. And in the same way that Prof. Chamine explains, I had the opportunity to reflect on how important it is for happiness and success, to recover our self-esteem.
To prevent sabotages in our lives, we need to pay attention to our inner voice and encourage our sage to speak up. We cannot just ignore these voices, we need to understand what they’re telling us and where are they coming from and then address them.
As we know, the knowledge is useless if it doesn’t impact our actions, so, I’d like to invite you write down the 3 most important things that have been sabotaged by your inner critics.
Now, add the 3 usual messages your inner critic (or saboteur) says to you. Identify what’s the intention of this critic and the emotion behind it. Now, think of what someone who you admire would say to encourage you. Finally say these words to yourself as often as you needed them.
Here is an example of one of them:
Situation: I’m creating an online course that will be part of my signature program.
Critic voice: Don’t even worry doing this. It’s a lot of work and no one will buy it.
Intention: I’m self-doubting, I don’t want to risk myself.
Positive Message: You have something positive to share. This work will inspire people to change and inspire you to take more challenges!
Take action and get rid of your inner critics, you can get the life you want!